What disturbs me is that some "experts", including this couple, appear to be taking an unproven approach to its logical conclusion. That would be to end even a long term relationship affected by an issue indicative of early problems (some examples include infidelity), with little or no consideration as to any potential for recovery of the relationship. The motivating principle being that "true love" has no such issues.
Since people are "driven" into relationships for many reasons, love, convenience, money, loneliness, pregnancy, proximity, fear, and other reasons, it seems that limiting a relationship's legitimacy to only "true love" is a rather limited view of reality.
Well "true love" is certainly hard to define but I doubt you could find one R/M on the planet that is Without at least Some "issues." That seems like a strange conclusion for that couple to reach. If people really believed in that approach, the D rate would be close to 100%. Hmmpf
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My opinion is and was that a relationship is what you make of it, with some obvious exceptions. I also agree that the lesser the issues at the onset of the relationship, the greater the chances are for long term success. I remain unconvinced that stopping a relationship early on when some issues first appear is always appropriate. I am highly skeptical that always ending an older relationship because a problem arises due to an early unresolved issue bears any merit.
I agree. It's not as important that you Avoid having problems in a M, it's much more important how you Manage the problems. It's like stress. You cannot go through life without some stress, but you better know how to handle it or you might end up with a heart attack or jumping off a bridge. Same for M.
