Work forced separations suck, don't they? So you've been overseas for 11 years but would you give it up to keep your family? Just a question I've had to ask myself since I spent 3 years away from home and am looking at split living to survive.
You are in a tough situation. The problem with all the "nice" talk from someone who has asked for divorce is that they have this picture of "we'll still be best friends" and a rosy picture of the future where you do most things together. I think that's pretty naive.
Hopefully some of the experts will chime in but there's a great difficulty in DB'ing while separated by such a great distance. You need to look inside yourself. What can you change for the better? What do YOU want for the future? How do you make yourself more attractive to your spouse? I'll give you a big hint about a big positive: MOVE HOME AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!
That doesn't mean I'm suggesting you become a wimp and beg and plead for the "love of your life" to wait for you. Be cool about it but try to get back home. That's my 2 cents, and your mileage may vary but I noticed that separation does make the heart grow fonder....usually for the person who pays alot of attention to one while the partner is asbent!
Hope things turn out well. Describe yourself, your hobbies and what you see as things you can do to improve yourself. That's always a good start.
