Its over...she filed part 2

[OldFool]

I looked on craigslist.org and good lord...women there only seem interested in how much you make, what you drive and if you look like an A&F model. Is everyone out there so shallow these days? What happened to love, honesty and faithfulness?

Well, looking on craigslist.org or hitting the bars makes me think of an old saying, "You'll never catch bass fishing in a herring barrel."

I'm also thinking about how the divorce is going to set me back 10 years financially, the money I worked so hard for and saved for our future.

Yep...it just sucks and there's nothing you can do about it.

This happened because someone recently told me that what my wife did was very typical when there's another person involved.

Sadly, I believe that's true.

I guess if she did cheat on me then maybe I deserved it because she cheated on her ex-boyfriend with me even if she threw herself at me 3 or 4 times and gave me a story about how he mistreats her and she's not even in love with him and that she's moving into her own place in a few weeks.

No one deserves to be cheated on. But that having been said, it's worth remembering the old Biblical admonition, "He who lives by the sword, dies by the sword". If she is having an A, I'd bet she gave him the same line that worked on you. Remember, if they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.

For me to move on I need a girlfriend to take my mind off of things and to start feeling good about myself again.

Heard that before...and it's a mistake. Getting a girlfriend is a great way to mask your issues and make you think everything is fine, but it's no solution. Like alcohol, you may forget about your problems and be able to avoid your issues for a while, but when the buzz wears off (that is, when the R with the new GF fades away), you'll find your problems are all still there waiting for you.

You need to detach before you can get to a place where you can make the decision as to whether or not to move on. Don't get the two confused (as many here do). If you think you need a GF to make things right, it means you're not ready for one. It is when you have sorted through things, have fixed your problems, have created and independent life for yourself, and don't feel you have to have anyone to be happy and move on...that's when you'll be ready for a GF.