WAW may want to come back

[I_Still_Love_Him]

DDC,

Your W still needs to feel like she is in control. Continue to live your life as though she is not part of it. Well, okay, I don't mean date other women It is her turn to do the chasing. If you were not seeing your W right now, what would you be doing? Going out? Watching football? Hockey? Live YOUR life for YOU not for your XW. I am not suggesting that you go back to the way things were when you were married where she was not a priority but don't be waiting by the phone to call her the second she gets back.

When you do get together, it is okay to pay attention to her because this is what she is looking for but I would not be the first one to call her when she gets back. If she really does want to work on your M, she is going to have to put in some effort. Wait for her to call you.

While it all seems like things are going great, be cautious, take care of yourself and let your W work to get you back. You were not pursuing her when she became interested again.

Let me ask you this? Did you attract the woman you were dating for 6 months by constantly calling her and constantly buying her things? Treat your XW the same way as though you just met her for the first time and are dating.

I see myself already expecting her to call me tom night and invite me over to thank me for the gift...but from years of DB'ing I know not tom have any expectations.

I think we can all relate to having an expectation but really, don't. When I called my H last week to wish him a HB, he didn't pick up the phone and while I had hoped he would, I did not EXPECT him to. I was able to still be kind and left a vm.
I also did not expect that he would wish me a HB the next day (you can see my post from March 12 on my thread) but low and behold to my surprise he sent an email both at my office and at home. This meant more to me than him answering the phone when I called him.

Expect little and the rewards will be greater.

Hugs,
ISLH