Hey 25 yrs, if this is something new, it may just be the circumstances of living on his own and making his own decisions for now.
I didn't invest, but I would give him ideas on what we should do, because I will research stuff like that. As for paying bills, I do that every month, yesterday he came home for a while to bring me his check, which I put in the bank, and paid the bills. I am trying to be more conscious of ways to save money, and I have set up the bank accounts to automatically transfer a set amount every week to savings. We have credit card debt, not as much as some people, but more than I like to have, but when I start to work, I will be using my pay to get that taken care of. I hate how expensive everything is, even groceries. You can't scrimp as much on food, really. He did the bills years ago for a few months, but gradually turned them back over to me. I like doing it, and while I am not very frugal (H is), I am trying to do better. We still have retirement accounts, too, but I found a note the other day with several messages and numbers on it, and one was from an investment firm in Nashville, so he could be up to something, so I wrote down the number to file away in my may need to know file. I always thank him now for making a good living for us to afford the things we have.

I haven't started posting anywhere else yet, I will, though, soon. I haven't gotten the new cell bill yet, it comes in about a week, but I will try not to look until at least next month. He is acting so much better, and night before last, he called me to say he was on the way home, and when we said goodbye, he said ILY first. And when I say it to him first, a lot of times he says ILY like he really means it. At first I believe it was a little annoying all the attention I was giving him, he wasn't used to it, but now he seems to be enjoying it, although he sometimes teases me about it. He keeps getting surprised at the different things I have changed about myself.
I agree that the MLCer makes some wacky decisions he himself doesn't understand, so I have to give him some space to figure things out, and I am doing better at that. He says he believes me when I told him I don't look in his car anymore. But, he will tease me about that, too.
We are going to a surprise dinner party for our nephew who just joined the army \:o He really felt he needed to do something, and was kinda floundering. He is only twenty. He is a good boy, and I will pray for him. It makes me proud of him and scared as heck at the same time. So, that and going to church tomorrow are our weekend, but it is good with me, I am just happy that H still goes with us. Especially since S has said he will never go to a certain church my H suggested one time, knowing I am a member of our church, and S has been raised in our church.

Yes, verycrazy has seemed to fit me throught this whole thing, I have not felt perfectly sane for a while, but it may happen eventually that I regain my sanity.

I hope YOU have a great weekend, and you and your kids have some fun stuff to do, I guess it's almost always nice there, so that's good. Which college has your D decided on? My S luckily wants to stay near home, so far, anyway. I know you are really struggling with your decision, one you will have to live with for a long time, so you should weigh all the possibilities and take your time with it. But in the end, I know you will make the right desision for your whole family.
So, come here and whine and moan and vent and rage all you want, it helps to talk (or write) it out.

L