I believe that you have "earned" your way out of the marriage.
So do I.
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Most people want to talk about significant or traumatic events in their life. It is perfectly normal and healthy to engage in such banter. It only becomes unhealthy when it is used to belittle, disrespect, or it becomes an obsession. Stating facts about a previous relationship is not disrespect. Your attitude does, however, matter. Even so, some anger is normal.
Exactly. What I said about my H was simply the equivalent of telling somebody that I just escaped Hurricane Katrina and it might be affecting my current mental/emotional state. I was just being honest and informative, not disrespectful or whiny. I am well aware of the fact that I would only make myself look bad if I were to do that. I do have a certain amount of disrespect for my 2BX but it has less to do with our sexual incompatibility and more to do with the fact that he told me "We do not have a happy family life." in an attempt to evade responsibility for ensuring that we would.
You will, I'm sure, not be surprised to hear that my 2BX is not making a good adjustment or even fully accepting the fact that we are divorcing. He "snuck" into the house to use my computer and he took it upon himself to take the dog out. He also has called me "Babe" on more than one occasion since we split. Clearly, I'm going to have to do something about this.
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Dress how you feel. I personally like curves. I think that regardless of what a television show says, that most men like curves. If you feel like dressing young, then have fun. You are an intelligent woman. You most certainly understand appropriateness in dress by this time in your life. No reason not to have fun with your figure at least some of the time.
Actually, I probably like dressing a little fun/funky/young/somewhat-inappropriate because I am such an intelligent woman. I am also a contrarian so it amuses me to dress/look the opposite of what a female nerd is "supposed" to dress/look like. I like the reaction I get when what comes out of my mouth doesn't "match" what's popping out of my t-shirt.-LOL
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
