Quote: All I wanted to do was sit in front of my computer and play bingo all day and night. In front of my friends, you would not have known anything was wrong.
I considered mine an MLT - didn't matter what the game was - just anything to distract myself from life. I functioned well at work though - 2 years of this was while I was in the military and had 84 people working for me......................and nobody knew.
If you run to a person to try and convince them that you’ve changed – they wont believe you. Don’t worry about communicating any of what you have learned to your H. You don’t want him back until his MLC is finished – and that will be when it is.
GAL – and move on as if H will never be back. Someday – IF he finishes his journey and wakes up, he will see you for how you are then.
I never thought sex was a way to say “I Love You” in any R.
This has been a turning point to a better M. In 25 years will either of us will remember much about this time? Because in 50 years neither of us will remember much of anything.
Thank you for the reply. I know that I have to GAL, which I am doing, and move on with out H. That is the hard part because I know I have at least another year before he may start to wake up. My hopes are still to big. I am moving on for the most part in planning my future. The problem is that H and I had the same vision for the future and I know that the OW doesn't share that vision with H. So in way, I am moving on with our vision and hoping (really hoping) that he will eventually join me on our front porch.
You are right in that ours may have been a MLT and mine took six years. I sure hope his isn't six years.
My S18 told me the other night that he hates his father and wishes he could disown him. I am very concerned about this. H did not have a R with his father and disowned him as well. H right now is acting like his father. I know I can't say anything to H as he is too concerned about himself right now to do anything. I would like to discuss this with S and see if there is something I can do to help him.
My S25 is going through a horrible time as well. The story on this one is way too long to get into right now, but I have to try to figure out how to help him as well. He is from my first marriage. He just got married and had a baby, he is separated, close to loosing his custody of his D and his wife has charged him with assult. I am really worried about his S who is only 2 months old. He is staying at his fathers. He has not told me a thing about this!!!
I hope things are going well with you, Cynthia. I have been away, and just thought I'd let you know that I do think about you, and am sending positive thoughts your way.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hi Cynthia! I was thinking about you today, and wondering how you are doing? Aren't you just looking forward to spring, like me? I am a little tired of the rain.
Take care!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
