When I read your example, what jumped out at me was the "My husband had the nerve to get angry at me" statement. Would it have made any difference if he had merely asked the question or pointed out the mileage without the attitude of anger toward you?
I ask because I know it would for me. I would probably still have been annoyed but would not have "blown a gasket." The point about changing the oil I could understand even if it was not the same priority for me; the anger or accusation about it would not be understandable.
I thought the point of your story was not that your H has to read your mind. It seemed more that you have to read his mind. He may have been angry because you did not recognize the importance of changing the oil which is important to him, maybe he feels you aren't competent, worried that you do not care for the car properly, etc. Do you know why he was angry?
This was my interpretation anyway.
I liked Cobra's comments and thoughts. They lead to these questions. Were you angry at your H because he had not recognized how much you have on your plate and had not volunteered to help? Does your H know that you feel overloaded and need help or are you expecting him to read your mind? From the short example it is hard to know that background.
By the way, have you read Anne Morrow Lindbergh's book "Gift from the Sea?" If not, please pick it up because I think it is so applicable to the busy world we all live in and are trying to survive in. I appreciated it very much myself.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
