You are going through a really hard time right now MJ. Sorry.
As you were posting all of your happy comments about this guy and your newfound adventures, I knew you were also really upset. I've been there myself so I see some of the same reactions.
One in particular that is screaming out is your need for validation. You are doing it with that man and you are doing it on this board. I'm not judging on that issue because I think it is perfectly normal to want validation. But just like any "dysfunction", you need to look at it on the continuum. Swing too far out and it becomes really unhealthy.
So I noticed you asked the guys what they thought of that Old Navy outfit. I'm going to say, who cares what the guys on this board think. (sorry guys). Do what is right for YOU. Does it make you feel good? Better about yourself? OR, are you doing it to get validation from them (men in general).
I like to wear string bikinis in my front yard in the summer. May even mow the lawn in it. Do some neighbors make comments? Yep. Do some of the men in the neighborhood choose to pull out the lawn chairs and a few beers at that moment? Maybe. But I wear the bikini because I need maximum skin exposure for my tan. And yes, a little validation from men thrown in for good measure. My point is, don't seek the Validation alone, do it because you feel great about yourself.
You don't seem happy right now so maybe you need to work on Yourself for a while and screw the guys. Not even literally. Lol. Take some time to pamper yourself but NOT with the goal of becoming more attractive to men. That will just come naturally.
You are trying too hard right now. It shows. And I think you are probably right to not post every detail of your dating life on this board, but don't avoid the posts so you can go do what you know darn well is bad for you and just to avoid the wrath of all of us. ;\)
There's lots of great advice and feedback to be had here but you need to be willing to listen to it and sometimes even take it. I hope you can find some peace in this whole S process MJ. You are a good person. I think you just need to become more comfortable with who you REALLY are and stop trying so hard to impress. It's still a work in progress for me too, so.... ;\)

Live and learn.
LFL