Hi OL!

What's there to say? Hmmm... Well, first off you are never responsible for someone else's happiness. You can only own your own feelings. Sure, you can create an environment that helps happiness happen, but you can'te MAKE someone feel anything (except pain, and then only if you touch them).

Secondly, with grown up kids and the looming "empty nest" there are a lot of people, women especially since they tend to spend most of the time child raising, tend to look back and say "What now?". The "What now?" can really develope into "Why?" and then...bam MLC. Nothing was ever right, or good enough. I've wasted my time, you were always busy...blah, blah, blah.

So, who can you control? Why, YOU of course! You're also in the breakout stage of life when you'll have more time. Don't like your job? Change it! Don't like your clothes? Buy new ones! Money may be tight but there's always second hand affairs and let me tell you, some of that stuff is pretty nice.

You control you. You can only change you. Make YOURSELF content. Your spouse seems to just have started a wild ride. MLC, QLC, split danged crazy....who cares? Make yourself attractive. Work on making yourself a better person during this time and even if things go "pear shaped" you will still come out a better human being.

There are a lot of people here who are dealing with this. Lean on them. Ask for help. Look up people like FrankD who had to deal with a pretty big mess. You've only got to DO! Remember, Do or Not, there is no Try! (That should be the GAL motto!)

OTB


Me - 47
Her - 46
4 kids, 2 still at home