I believe things are going well, although still confused is the best way to describe things. Thought I would pop on this site tonight after tonight actually to get people's input.
I think I have the most unusual situation....in that my XW and I are actually great friends. Actually, I would go as far as to say, best friends. I can talk with her about anything....no matter what it is. Very Very Similar to by best guy friend.
I have been "seeing someone" for about 8 months now and that is starting to fade since she has issues....too many to deal with as "us" if you will. I have told my XW about it.
Tonight, my XW and I actually had an appointment with out accountant. They schedule your meetings a year in advance and with our situation last year,....well, we had a join appt. We did that and have fun and then went to dinner.
Over dinner, we talked a bit about my R with "Sara", and XW actually said that I deserve more than I was getting. We had a great time! Really! Although I had a poker game that I had planned earlier, I made some further time to be with her and walk to get a cup of coffee.
We walked a ways, grabbed a cup and during our walk and talk, she mentioned how she was feeling less than perfect sinc
e she had not been asked out herself. She has not been out on a date since the divorce. Personally, I am not sure why, she looked absolutely incredible tonight! Actually, they way that I remember her when we first started dating 13 years ago.
I told her that she did look great and that if I were not with our past, I would totally take her home right now. Actually said that specifically! She laughed!
Again, we had such a great time that is scares me. With all of the pressure off of the relationship, I think some of those old feelings are starting to creep in for me. I have a big Banquet next weekend that I doubt that gal I have been seeing is going to make and asked XW if she would be my date in case. Her intial answer was isn't it going to be ackward and I said yes, but don't care, then gave an answer of going to be tired due to work that day. While I figure that might be the reason....not sure......also, not sure if she wants to play the backup date role.
Kissed her on the cheek goodbye.
So what do you do?? How do you deal with this situation? Where it seems as if you are so perfect for each other, however, the past baggage is there and is it possible to move forward????
Sorry for writing so long!
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
