Kiki, I agree w/lonelyolive!! Everyone's sitch is diff.,,I don't know if you've talked to a DB coach, it really helped me, its' worth it, they can help you decide whether something is working or not working, especially when they are not in the thick of things, they see clearly when we tell them whats' been going on as opposed to those of us who are in the "throws" of it(including u & ur sitch)that might be looking thru clowdy goggles!
She said, "patience & consistency" are key and even though i've been sep. for 4yrs that I hadn't been DBing consistently!
Hey,,don't be down, Dec. is when I bought the DB book & started,,we can do it together,,keep each other occupied DBing & GALing while our H's figure out what they're losing if they don't follow our lead!
Kim
M44H44 M18 T22 Sep7yrs-3/10 S23,22,15,11 10/07I file 2/08D postponed by H 2/09D on 3/09H moves in 8/09I kick H out 9/09H-PA 10/09-2/10mediate 3/10OW discoved 5/10H&OW engaged 7/10DDay w/atty