No I don't feel sure of which choice I am making. I lean towards going but need to get a PMA and accept that it's a risk, which it always is in reality. But His actions and moods and mine, are just so changeable these days. Plus my time is limited right now and moving that far is a big deal and just now, I need to help our d17 with the college decisions by visiting them with her and d9. Very time consuming, possibly expensive, but very bonding. I went with our son 3 years ago, went to NY, Conn., Boston, etc. You will get a lot out of it when your son is older. It's a powerful and pivotal experience as a parent. ( If you do get a divorce, I swear you should put in the agreement that your H will fill out the flippin' financial forms, or alternate each year...hey, I am only half kidding).
As for your sitch, so when you invest does that mean you used to not discuss it with your H? Was it sort of your territory or area of interest? How do you do it now? I did thank H for paying the bills up til last year. I mean, it sucks to do and he used to be really grumpy when he'd pay the bills each month. I can see why now. I find myself switching lights off and turning the heat/AC off right after I pay the electric bill, muttering to myself about how expensive everything is. I sound like H or like my dad used to sound when we were kids and he'd pay the bills and give out really loud sighs. I do some financial planning for clients and actually like the field of finance. H does not, but he is frugal. Unfortunately this MLC has cost us our savings (still have the retirement funds, as far as I know). Yikes! Just thought maybe I should check that out. Dang....
Anyhow, like I said, where are you posting today? How are you doing with the cell phone monitoring? Is it working? I feel for you, it'd be so hard not to look. But remember what your real goal is, long term. How does the snooping help? We both know it only "helps" if you want a D, not if you want the M to last and be good. It'll make you crazy. Remember that thread about who is crazier, the LBSer or the WAS's? Someone said the obsessing we do is part of the process of grieving, or some type of step we need to take. The part that is pointless to me is that at SOME point you make decisions based on inadequate information b/c even the MLCer does not know why he does what he does. Reading his mind would not yield all that much info at times. It can be crazy. Guess you know that, since your screen name is what it is. Well, Hope you have a good weekend and do something fun with your son, and maybe even your H! Keep on keeping on j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
