See now for me I wouldn't see it as a red flag for someone to mention something about their ex. Because I think if I was ever divorced and was getting into another relationship for one I would very picky. But for two I would be very upfront about what I needed in a man. I also would very much appreciate it if a man could be very open about something that was painful for him and say listen I was in a SSM and won't be doing that again. So for me I think it is great he has mentioned somewhat on just what his needs would be.
