My parents are going through a D right now in Oregon as well, and theirs has dragged on for OVER 6 years now because neither party has the motivation to get it done.
Then I must be misunderstanding this because so far as I know, that's not possible. I think a separation has no time limit, but once you file for D, you've got six months to get a court date or the D is dropped by default and if you still want one, have to reapply to the court (and pay the filing fee again).
stilldazed & IWMIW: No real contact to speak of. I've literally not seen her or spoken with her (in person or on the phone) in just under three months. There were the cards from her a month or so ago and the occasional e-mail regarding business (such as taxes right now). But that's it...and that's rare. It's been quite nice, actually. Since I don't see her and don't talk with her, she's had virtually zero opportunity to hurt me and that has been a welcome relief.
