He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

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H was very close to leaving in Nov (we had separation agreement drafted up) but we had to delay because of all the planned vacations in Dec and we decided it's better to wait till Jan for the kids. I DB'ed lots during Nov/Dec/Jan and it worked. He came much closer to me than her.
But like Doe said about DB, "it killed me to make him feel good in this situation" and "my self respect and love for him both suffering". He knows everyone is suffering. I am losing respect for him every day for sitting on the fence. (same comment from OW, according to him). I would have DB'ed a little longer but h apparently wants to end the suffering. Hence the moving out to be alone to think. For that I have a bit more respect for him.
I am also at a calmer state now to handle whatever that may happen. H is very independent, my worst fear now is him going to OW, but also like Doe said, h may actually enjoy his freedom so much that he will just leave (may be not even with OW) and be alone. He is not one who craves family routines. Another month or so and this will be clear.