Well, Lou, I look at it this way. I have been talking to CeMar, based on his response, for two or three YEARS now. I know him no better now than I did the day I began speaking with him.
I certainly know his complaints. I know very well what causes him angst.
But I do not KNOW Cemar, not any better now than I did then, and I have done plenty of inviting. I've set up threads for him. I have asked him to converse with me.
He declines. Yet he will still continue to bitch and moan.
Much like my xH.
And perhaps CeMar does not do it on purpose. Yet. There is NOTHING there for me to know. NOTHING there for me to empathize with... for he will NEVER let his guard down. He will not answer questions... but he WILL continually go on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on... ad nauseum... about what is NOT right in his life.
No one, but a woman who is steadfast in her belief in marital vows... could bear the brunt of such... pessimism. I don't think I spelled that right. Anyway.
