One regret I have is that my husband and I didn't keep up with MC in the past, not to work on problems, but to help insure communication. Maybe it wouldn't have made a difference with the A, but it always seems like by the time we go into MC it's usually too later or after something bad happened.
The thing I realize now is that by going minimally once a month (that's only 12 times per year!!!), just to have a regular set "date" to talk about things we might be thinking about, or concerned about, in a safe environment with a neutral party is REALLY important. Even if it's not on our insurance, and even if we're not having any big problems, this is something I think my husband and I need to do the rest of our married life. I don't care how expensive it is, it's A LOT cheaper than a divorce!!!!
I know what you mean about the facial inconsistencies. One thing that drives my husband batty is I tend to smile when I'm angry (and mean). He takes it as me enjoying being mean when really it's something I do when I'm uncomfortable. It's kind of like someone laughing when something terrible happens. They aren't laughing because they think it's funny, it's just one of those odd responses people sometimes have.
I don't think the PMs work. If you want you can email me on my yahoo acct. comtesse_de_provence @yahoo.com
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