I do see one hint of a red flag. I don't like it when someone says tacky things about their ex... to virtually a total stranger. I'd be careful about doing that... and I'd be suspicious of someone else who does.
I know you're just fooling around and getting your feet wet, etc. But soon we're going to take off your training wheels, and you'll be on the superhighway alone.
Mojo, it seems to me that if you can ultimately find a guy with a normal level of sexual desire (and I think you know what I mean by that), who is kind, who had/has a healthy relationship with his mother, is financially responsible... he will worship the ground you walk on. You really don't need someone ULTIMATELY who will top your top.
I know you're in the early stages... but you really can't build a healthy relationship with someone based on complaints about your past R's-- that's just reactivity.
Yes, you can fcuk Capt. Wentworth if you want... just don't marry him.
