Other Woman's Perspective

[25yearsmlc]

Hey VC/Running,

Very interesting theory about fathers cheating. I believe that and since you mentioned it, I can now recall several examples.

Here's a thought/question for you. We all talk about doing the right thing, being moral, responsible AND we also talk about being happy, finding joy and the pursuit of happiness, etc. I GENUINELY BELIEVE that I cannot end up happy IF I feel I did a selfish thing of significance. SO, IMHO, IF we choose the selfish way or hurt an innocent person knowingly, how is it possible to be happy?

Jackie Kennedy Onassis was quoted as saying something about motherhood that struck me: "If I fail as a mother, nothing else I do in my life will matter."

This is why I cannot seem to wrap my brain around H's behavior (No OW that I know of, knock on wood) the past 2 years. Very selfish and SEEMS to be oblivious to that. Just wants us to pick up where we left off before he left. Called me a "liar" for saying I was working on forgiving, b/c he says I have not forgiven him. Well, I am working on it, but him calling me a liar is so out of line, so hypocritical I almost laughed. Back to earth, do you guys get the question? Does 2sides? I mean, just thinking of HER for a moment....I cannot believe she is a good person AND would be happy knowing she was putting her wishes/passions ahead of others including the man she says she loves, b/c this A will end up damaging HIS life as well as the innocent child and GF...she did not sound evil, but conflicted. But the rationalizations are dangerous. When I did criminal law, I was often amazed at what people could justify in their minds. LOTS of bad things. So, I try to watch myself for that, the rationalizing and calling it the "right thing" to do, etc. Very dangerous.
Dangerous to our soul and dangerous to our own happiness.
j-