I will look for the book on anger. No time to really post now as kids need picking up. All I know about both our M's is that they will surely fail if we go back into them with poor attitudes. I need some major attitude adjustments asap. Sometimes I do think we will end up divorced and the craziest thing is, we are actually good together. When we are together. My sister said once, "it's just weird to see you guys having trouble and maybe divorcing when you both love each other...." Yep, it's weird. thanks for posting and reading my novel length post. It really is like journalling and it does help. Without this bb, I would surely be divorced by now. So, being stable for d17's senior year of HS has been at least one good thing to come of these efforts, that I can be sure of. Done my best for the daughters, so far. Guess I really don't feel safe with him b/c he SEEMS to think his actions were all justified and hates it when I bring up the lying and witholding of major information (like where he was going to live...). No, I don't rehash it. But he did it again last week--borrowed/got a "gift" whatever, of 24k (to buy medical equipment that will Probably pay off in the end, but that isn't the point and he does NOT get my point) from his mom and didn't mention it at all to me b/c it is "HIS MONEY".... Is it wrong for me to think that even though I am a stay at home mom NOW, that I should have equal input into the financial decisions? (I would have likely agreed to his idea, but again, I was shut out). How do I get thru to him? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
