Mark, I'm sorry...so sorry that after two months..she is still filled with rage. I think you definately did some 180s by not getting angry and not walking out...there were times when I felt strangely calm and I questioned how I did it. That's when I knew that God gave me the strength to be like that at that moment.

I don't understand why she has to give up custody. I think you should find a common ground with her by setting up a schedule for visitation for your son for the both of you. Tell her right now, he is the most important thing..just like she said to you and that first and foremost, you need to work out what is best for him to make sure he has constant contact with both of you and that it is always positive.

My H and I have done this and we even pump each other up to our son and I see it as a common thread we have and a door that is always open to constant communication with each other. My H has even said to me that if anything brings us back together someday, it will be our son.

Keep it all about you and your son for now.


Me 31
WAH 30
M 5
Together 14 years
S 4
divorced 7/11/07