If you're feeling down about yourself, I noticed a few things you could do - as GAL activities...
If you think he's muscular and you're not - hit the gym. As far as home improvement projects, most home improvement stores offer workshops...take some.
Little ambition? Look at your +'s you listed. You had to have ambition to get those things - except the kids LOL
I agree that H feels inadequate, like he can't measure up to om which is SOOOOOO not the case. I pray in time he sees it's true.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...