Okay, the first thing to bear in mind is that Captain W. made it very apparent in his profile about himself that he wanted to be with a woman who was sexual. I think he used the word passionate about 10 times. He also made it clear to anyone with the insight that might be gained from spending time on this BB that he was the HD partner in a SSM. He described what he might do for a woman sexually and the added "But that doesn't mean that you get to be selfish.-LOL (Been there done that.)". The first e-mail I impulsively sent to him I gave the subject line "Been there done that." and I shocked the heck out of the guy with my insight into the matter. He actually thought that I might be someone who knew him in real life because I also "knew" a lot about him because I understand how his kind of engineer-brain works because of my background as a former engineering/math/science type. So we have "talked" about our lame*ss marital situations but not in any sort of whiny way. When I told him one of my 2bx's typical comments he e-mailed back
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Souless men with shallow eyes walk paths of misery.
and described his ex as being equally "cold and callous". So, we've talked about sex (I told him I was HD and that I had a wide sexual bandwidth), I just haven't been sexy directly towards him until today. In my mind, it would be very odd if he didn't respond positively. It would be like he decided that he really didn't want what he stated he wants or need what he stated he needs. Also, the number 2 thing he indicated that he wanted from a woman was intelligence.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
