My wife and I went to retrouvaille a couple of years ago. It was a very important experience and we would be divorced now without it. We still have many problems but the weekend was extremely worthwhile.
Hi Baltoman,
When you attended your Retrouvaille weekend, would you say that both you and your wife were committed to improving communication and working on your marriage?
Right now, my W is feeling overwhelmed with a lot of things - especially figuring out how she is going to tell her Catholic parents and other relatives that she is separating from me.
Joann, my DB coach, asked me if I thought suggesting the Retrouvaille weekend would bring my wife closer, push her away or have a neutral effect? My observations and intuition suggest that discussing the R weekend would have the effect of pushing her away from me. So that is why we most likely will not be doing the Retrouvaille weekend next week.
To be perfectly honest, I believe we both went in with the attitude of "well we can check this off the list of things we tried" so we would feel less guilty about ending the relationship. I did my best to sabotage it the night before but we went anyway and it really helped quite a bit.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
