Piecing together, or not?

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I don't trust when people say they know what God wants. Noboby has spoken with a burning bush for a long time now. I think part of the fun is we get to figure out our lives for ourselves. I think that's supposted to be a blessing :-)

And, although there is much in your post to comment on, I think it comes down to this: IF he said he is sorry, and that he understands how unfair he has been, and he appreciates what you've done, it all might be different. That's what I hear you saying. If he could see it from your point of view and empathise a little, then you could forgive, you could move to AK, you could do almost anything. Am I right?

I know for me, I think of so many issues and concerns, and all of them are important, but often I find it comes down to just one big issue at the root.

If I am right, maybe a MC could help, especially him? Or if you explain to him exactly what you need, not as an ulitmatum (although it might be one in a way) but just as a fact, then he can decide if he can give you what you need or not.

If it helps, and I doubt it does, I appreciate and empathise with all you've gone through and sacrificed. I'm sure most if not all of the people on the board do to.