And then there's the whole other part of wanting... once you figure out what you do want, how do you go about getting it. Many women, afraid of their own vulnerability (ahem, ahem, shuffle feet) will turn to manipulation rather than honesty.
90% of the women I know, from ALL age ranges, will jump almost imeediately into the sack, thinking it is the way they will 'get' the guy. They 'want' one thing, but the 'get' another. Then get all confused about it.
I think that this is really true. Although perhaps my case is a little different because I find it difficult to be truly honest with myself or a man because I have my bunny needs and my monkey needs and they're both very important to me and it's like if I act bunny I'm being half-fake and if I act monkey I'm being half-fake too. The bunny has been playing ball with Captain Wentworth in a very honest fashion (I really want to thank all the very nice men on this BB for showing me that it's okay to allow myself to be vulnerable in this way). Really I've been scaring myself sh*tless with how open I've been in my communication. The Captain hasn't dropped the ball yet but I just sent him an e-mail in which I put my monkey in the middle of the ball game. Way I figure, it doesn't really matter what the rules say, if the guy can't handle my monkey, he's not the guy for me.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
