I would find it very difficult to have a friendship with someone who was leaving me for another man. You are not resposible for her guilt - that is hers.
Yes Martelo - it will be very difficult to maintain a friendship with my W, if she goes forward with a R with OM. But that is one strategy that has worked for others.
I am very clear about the fact that I am not responsible for her guilt - I was just explaining why I think she kissed and embraced me during MC when I told her I wanted to remain close friends during the separation.
So, I am putting this question out there:
If I only mention the Retrouvaille weekend as a possibility for my wife to consider, and I make it clear that I am o.k. with whatever she decides, then how much could proposing this option actually push her away?
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
