He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

[Doe]

I don't see that as the opposite - going to her entirely is exactly what my h implied he would do if didn't play the game his way! So i pushed - and he tried it - and he found that what he had with her while "fun" was by no means essential to his life - but his family was. By this time Heartbroken i had already been doing family meals and lighthearted DBing for nearly a year. Yes he enjoyed it - had no idea how it killed me to make him feel good in this situation. I could see he was gonna sit on that fence for ever and i could feel my self respect and love for him both suffering - it was time to call a halt. This moment comes at diff times for everyone - seems like Ourcrisis may have reached hers. Doing it is VERY scary but also very empowering - a real taking back of control. She isn't "pressuring" him at all, she is merely stating HER boundaries, withdrawing and sticking to them. Good luck OurCrisis.