New to Piecing II

[WCW]

My H was born in CA, I've been there a handful of times in the last 10 years. Lot's of green space there, but I don't believe the advertisements about the 'CA happy cows' they show in Americas Dairyland. No way, I've seen the dairies in CA. Big ranches too, beautiful country. Then there's Fishermans Wharf, just plain weird.

Anyway....I am going to try these answers as my H/M/R was at that time. The last 3plus years is a different story and just n/a.

There's alot women that would really love THAT scenario to happen, unfortunately, not mine and obviously not you. But that's OK, and I've learned how to love unconditionally, and not expect every touch to lead there. It's actually very nice.

I actually was a woman that loved that scenario in our early years together.

you can't just leave me hanging here country girl.

Um, hanging? what a choice of words for this discussion... and that's the type of innuendos to try with your W. Enticing, teasing, funny, tantalizing.

Trigger for me - emotional intimacy. Flirting. To know that H desired me, how he looked at me. Spontaneous rather than routine. I would rather take time out of a busy day to 'stop, drop, and roll' and not put it off until the last thing of the day when we soooo tired. Or both. Foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom, or when the lights go off. It's the nice things you do and say for each other day after day, but it has to stay fresh so it's not taken for granted.

I did initiate. I did (and still do) think about my desire for H, moments of the past, want him more. I would daydream and figure out just what I would do when I saw him next, but instead it was real world stuff that interfered and I would get upset or busy or company stopped in - plans gone awry.

She claimed that I was never there for her, that I was critical of her, that I didn't support her, that I only showed affection for her when sex was involved. She said she had made a conscious decision to detach emotionally from me several years before.

Does this ring any bells? "George" wrote this about his W. (Does the G in COG stand for George?) Are you supporting her now? non critical? offering no strings affection? Back to where this started, you put yourself off limits for Lent, she's safe now, PT is okay. Build on that, offer a back rub or a massage, take off your pajamas, or put your pajamas on. Enticing, teasing, funny, tantalizing.

Remember the old department stores with the candy jars behind the glass counter? no matter how close you pressed on the glass, no matter how hard you tried, you couldn't touch the candy. But you wanted it even more. Can you be candy?