Harmonic Divergence

[Lord Grenville]

Thanks for getting me to reexamine this Cobra.

I actually only have spoken with Joann once. When I said yesterday that she had given me the same advice - not to go to Retrouvaille - that was the conclusion based on how I answered her question to me - that my W would most likely be pushed away by discussing the weekend.

But now I am wondering:
If I ask my wife (only once) if she might consider going to the Retrouvaille weekend with me,

and NOT

beg her to go,
or
ask her several times during the next week if she will go
or
keep talking about the positive testamonials for Retrouvaille...etc.

then how great a distance could she be pushed away, by me simply asking her, one time, if she would consider going?

It will clearly remind her that I am willing to work at whatever it takes to improve things in our marriage. It's just not clear that she wants to try. So maybe that is another reason for me to simply ask her - so that I will have a better idea of whether she is willing to work at all, or if what she wrote in her journal back in January is what she truly believes right now: "We have given and received all that we can in the marriage".