Like Choc says, Then please just DON'T criticize the way we do it! LOL
Actually, not that long ago in my marriage, this was no laughing matter. Doing chores or teaching the kids devolved into a power struggle. W would ask me to do something, then either criticize how I did it or say that I was not putting effort into it and did not care. It felt at times like a setup, and I ended up telling her to just do it herself. It became a point of contention in counseling, and the counselor told W to let me do things as I wish, that for her to tell me how to do something was nothing more than control.
I've mentioned this before, but I told W that I did not want her trying to correct me and therefore control me, that I wanted to have the right to make the wrong choice if I so decided. I might decide to do just that to show W that she was not going to boss me, because what we often argued over had no right or wrong answer, but was just a matter of preference.
Reminds me of that episode on Everybody Loves Raymond where Frank was lecturing Ray about sucking up to the wife in order to please her. Frank said that stuff was not for him, no sir! When Ray asked how he an Marie got along in the marriage, Frank said he learned to do without! Men will learn to do without, rather than fight. Then after enough resentment builds, they end up on this board.
