Now Surviving Separation

[Heartbroken]

MC,

Your thread locked up so for now I will post here. For some reason a PA seems to bother men more than the EA with women its the opposite my H EA was WAY harder to get over than the PA. I was more hurt that they were now the 'best friends' and all the emotional stuff with it. The PA is out there but I really do not think about it - I can't or it will ruin my future with H. It's just sex - nothing more. SOunds trivial but that's how I have to take it to accept it.

I felt you were going to have a hard time with the PA and so did Theo - we could read it in your postings. After I found out about the PA I asked H if he even felt guilty the first time - he says "The Truth?, No - In my mind I WAS DONE WITH US..." So in order for him to go against his grain with such a deceitful act he had to believe we were over. I hate saying this to you but that's how H felt. But now look at where we are now - things do change. It's all about what you can handle and accept. My H wasn't my first or vice versa - I know he broke our sacred vows but that is a small piece of the whole picture in my mind I guess...

I am sorry you are here...I will check for a new link for you on Friday!

HB