I may not have said this before, kiki, but personally I think a reason to continue having sex with him is part of the whole package of showing him how good life (both family and wife) is. It is like other DB tricks to get him closer to you. However, down the road at some point, when you don't want to do it anymore, don't. Even now if it truly makes you feel miserable, don't do it. I also agree with runningoutoftime about finding a middle ground on GAL. Before I did not drink, went to bed early, homely, etc. H is more outdoor-ish, likes to go out a bit. When I started DB'ing, I tried a few things that h liked to do, like having some wine. Turns out I enjoy it also. I tried partying but decided that's not for me. One thing I really gain in this situation is that I have learnt to be more open to trying out different things, which is good. good luck, and hang in there. It will be a while (unfortunately), but you will get through it.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
