H sleeping with me and OW.

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I can fully understand wanting to go to bed at a decent time... I do too!!! GALing doesn't mean you have to go out and join the "single scene." It means finding things you like and doing that regardless of what it is. For some it might mean joining hiking groups, or getting more involved at church, and for others it might be bar scenes.... just try a lot of different things and work on enriching your life. It sounds like you do have a good support network of friends so that will help a lot.

It also sounds to me like your husband might be a little immature, and be wanting to stay in a lifestyle he had prior to the child? Does that sound likely?

If you do get back together you may need to find a middle ground with this. It sounds like a problem that might still be there even if OW were gone.

I'm glad to hear you're checking for STDs because that's very important. Another thing, if sex feels uncomfortable with him, you're fed up with the situation, and you don't want to do it, you don't have to. If your husband wanted this lifestyle prior to meeting OW, he may be on that fence a lot longer than expected.... that's my guess.