Journey of a Happy Heart 2

[COG]

Nic,

In the meantime, I think we should both be careful of what debt we incur, particularly as I will be responsible for part of it, and as you know, I earn far less money than you do.

I would appreciate it if you would use your spending money ($100 wk) to pay for things with and for your girlfriend, as I do not think it is fair for me to be subsidizing your relationship.

I think you could leave this out. It's an obvious attempt to control how he lives his life. Might make you feel better but it'll have NO impact on him other than to reinforce that he's made the right choices. However,

Also, I don’t know if you realize this, but the bonuses that you received last summer and at Christmas are half mine, legally. Since you removed them in their entirety from the joint account, you actually owe me that money. That is what I intend to use to pay for the Disney trip this summer.

It's definately fair of you to ask for half the bonus money. But you don't have to tell him what your going to spend the money on. That's none of his business, and you'll not ask him what he's spending his money on.

Finally, for some reason, when I accessed my wireless bill a few weeks ago, I got yours. As you knows, it was $500! I didn't check what you spent it on, but I'm guessing you've been doing a lot of texting to your girlfriend. Again, I don't think I should be paying for that. It is disrespectful.

Scratch that Nic. Don't even go there. It's water under the bridge. Just take a stick and beat him with it instead.

, I have tried really hard to be respectful of you and cordial towards you throughout the vast majority of this. And yet, you continue to act in a cowardly and disrespectful manner. I know that you've been seeing this woman for a few months, not a few weeks. D10 told me in Nov that she'd met her. Yet you continue to lie.

I promised to wait for the filing until your case was done out of respect and caring for YOU, and yet you do not have the guts or respect to wait before dating or, at least, tell me.

I do hope that you will find it in yourself to look at the way you've treated me for the last several YEARS, and think about whether or not you have really resolved your personal issues. I would also like to hear an apology from you for the cruelty with which you treated me. Before you ask me one more time why I have low self-esteem, at least do that.

Sorry Nic, but someday you'll regret sending that part. He's out of your life now and he'll go treating some OW like crap, not YOU anymore. Just let it go.

God Bless,

COG