NOP, My H and I had a series of mini-traumas during the early part of our marriage, which foreshadowed things to come. As I have mentioned previously, both of us were in meaningful relationships right before, and we had originally gotten together as friends and were helping each other heal the wounds. My H's parents were having financial and marital problems and separated ( they ended up getting back together). My H had a big blow out with his father. H and I went to grad schools in separate states...I think we were on the path of going our separate ways but then H transferred. Then, in year 3 of dating, my mother was really getting on my case to get married and then my father joined her. I ended up putting pressure on H even though we both weren't in a mature place to get married ( still in school). We both wanted to do the right thing but underneath had mixed feelings, which only worsened in time. With all the drama prior to marriage, we had a hot sex life; it was after marriage when things settled down that the SSM issues began. During one relationship discussion H brought up that even our honeymoon was pretty much non-sexual ( this was 15 yrs after the fact).
So, the short answer to your question is yes, the beginning years were traumatic.
