When I met XW she was untangling herself from an abusive relationship with a borderline alcoholic. I was engaged to a woman 12 years older who had decided she really did not want to have any more children. As we were growing closer and becoming involved I had to call the police to her rescue when we were on the phone and this guy broke down her door and threatened to kill himself in front of her.

Early in our M I was frustrated because it seemed XW never felt totally comfortable with sex and inititated unless she had been drinking.

Each small argument she questioned whether divorce was impending.

Her father had affairs and left her mother when she was 12. She had very little contact with him until her sister was getting married. This was 4 months into our R.

Shortly after we married she had to have one of her ovaries removed and go on Lupron. Fertility treatments followed soon after.

I am the man who is loving my kids and will keep them from continuing this cycle of destruction.