Starting to really piece it back together

[Heywyre]

I agree with your analogy Cat but what if the spouse (i.e. in this case my H) says that I was NOT to blame, that there was no reason for him to do what he did. He proclaims to this day I was the best wife ever and didn't do anything to drive him to the OW. It has NEVER been a topic of conversation. So, if that's the case, what do I think of? No one is perfect but when my own H, the one that had not one, but two of them, says it wasn't me how do you get past that?