For some reason I can't seem to receive or send private messages. When I tried to send you one it said you were over your limit. Is this working for others? Do you ever get PMs?
My H and I go to the MC every other week. It does help greatly with communication. I think of it as our biweekly "safe-communication spot." I could talk anytime about anything, but I think my husband is a little more guarded and he seems to have moments he wants to talk and others he's tired of it. So if I try to do this on my own I'm either over-communicating (make sure everything is getting out too much for his comfort) or under-communicating (giving him space and appearing disinterested).
Sometimes it's really hard for me to know when it's the right time for this. But having a regular set time really helps. I figure my husband and I may need to do this the rest of our married life. Do you and your husband go to MC as well? Do you find it helpful? I've come to realize it's almost a necessity in my marriage because our communication styles are just so different. We're also polar opposites in personality!!! So that just adds to the difficulty.
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