Well we've been together nearly five years total now so obviously since I've been here a couple of years...sex has been an issue, well intimacy really from the absolute beginning. It just didn't dawn on me until a year into our marriage how much it REALLY affected me...I found too many other things occuring in our R that allowed me to excuse away the issues. It appeared that everything else was normal/great. The last year (just before the 4 year mark) I found out he'd been cheating online for a little over two years. Oh and we did get pregnant unexpectedly prior to getting married, but we were planning on marriage anyway.
He's had no online activity since and we've managed to work things out pretty well. We have a LOT more intimacy in our marriage now and the communication has greatly improved. We still have a few things to try to iron out, maybe we will, maybe we won't...but really things are pretty darned good at this point.
His history has been that he had been cheated on at least twice that I know of, by his 1st W and the XW before me. As for me my 1st H was very abusive physically, emotionally, verbally. My 2nd an alcoholic who couldn't honestly tell me to my face that he hadn't cheated on me (what a lovely thing to hear.) After I left him I did quite a bit of work on myself and spent nearly 10 years on my own.
