First, I want to say that I don't see any of this as a "disability." I was referring to Cobra's post where he talked about his "disability," so I used the same word.
Here's another disclaimer -- often when I'm mid-post I have to stop and do something with S3 and then try to get back to the post later. If some of my posts seem a bit jumbled and missing key pieces of info, that may be why. I absolutely have trouble holding onto thoughts and can't remember things to save my life. Is that a disability? You bet it is, TO ME. I have always had big issues with concentration, that have held me back, and if I could get therapy or take classes or whatever to improve it, I would in a heartbeat. JMO on myself.
Anyway, back to the topic...
H and I have made big strides since I stopped expecting him to read my mind. Because much of the housework is more important to me than it is to him, I do need to let him know what I want, when I want it (within reason of course). I also need to be prepared to answer all his questions until he understands what I need. As I've said before, this is all coming together for me because of our son. I think it's easier for all this to be executed too because I care more about the housework, and as a SAHM, I'm doing the bulk of it. Our present situation works best for us so that really helps.
I USED TO think that I was treating H like a child, telling him what and when. I don't see it that way anymore. It is simply better communication on the part of both of us, which ultimately makes us both happier.
ETA: I should have added that I make it a habit to write down important things. I use a Palm "pilot" and make notes in notebooks. (They'd really help if I remembered I made the notes.) I think I have it easier here, than say HD, because, again, I'm the one who sees the housework as important, not H. So it's just a matter of being satisfied with my own contributions, not having H displeased that I can't remember to do things, KWIM?
