Starting to really piece it back together

[Heartbroken]

Thanks!

I did finally bring it up to him last night (at his apt during a heavy make out session). H said its not like he was with a prostitute - he makes it seem so trivial - she had one other lover that H knows about. I said do you KNOW there were not any more. No, but...

For now I will get condoms. I told him I doubt he has anything but it's the act of him taking responsibility for his acts of unprotected sex. He seemed to maybe reflect on what I was feeling but it ultimately came out as 'Well if you insist I must do this..'

You are so right - we have not used condoms for over 7 yrs and to go back (not so spontaneous) may be more hassle than its worth for him....

I realize I need to slow down - I really expected him to take 3-4 mos to even decide about the Ow let alone get rid of her but he saw the light real fast!!

I did see Ow walking thru his apt complex w/2 GFs last night - I just wanted to stop and tell her we were reconciling - but that that would just stir up the pot and come back to bite me! So far she has last three whole days with no contact. She moves further away next weekend so the walking issue should stop soon...

Also you are right about H telling studpid stuff about her like on Friday she runs errands - like I care. I just want to stop talking about her all together...baby steps....

Thanks for your words of encouragement!