HELP!!!! INFIDELITY AGAIN!!!!

[Walking]

Hey girlfriend. You sound better today. It'll come and go. Just keep treating yourself well.

I know you miss him. It sux.

He's not himself right now - and I can guarantee that he's not having a party either. He's self medicating with
crutches like ow, but this would not be an easy time for him.

The thing that always spun me out about separating was that one minute you have this person who is the first person you talk to if anything happens and vice-versa, but all of a sudden, he's not there for you and you can't be there for him. It absolutely did my head in for quite some time.

I'm pleased that you are going to the business function - your plan is a GAL and a 180 all in one. You are going without making an issue of it to H (great 180) and you'll get to see colleagues and friends (perfect for GAL).

I totally get that you are stressed about the weekend travel arrangements. Don't stress about it. You know he has it in his diary. He's a big boy and they are his parents. You might just have to let him manage this one. He's making his own rules at the moment and letting him deal with this one might help him to understand what "not being married (to you)" might mean for him.

I can understand the sensitivity around telling/not telling friends and family what's going on with you guys - but IF he does, you will be OK. It won't be the end of the world. You may even find a new level of support from friends and family.

Good luck at the counsellor tomorrow. I'm still here rooting for you.

I'm Australian, so I tend to post when I'm finishing up at work at the end of my day, which I think is quite late the night before where you are - so our timing is out of whack ... whatever.

Take care, talk tomorrow

[imLIN]

I agree...YOU DON'T have to do anything about HIS PARENTS TRIP...just let him take care of it...

You know you keep saying you don't want them to know, you hope he hasn't told them...how foolish would you feel if you called and made the excuse you couldn't go and he had already told them???....just let it be...if they call....deal with it gracefully by saying "Oh...I thought H let you know. I will have him give you a call." Then leave a message for H that his parents called and would like him to return the call..remember he is a big boy...let him be responsible...

[MariS]

2940,

Have just caught part of your thread and wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Where you are 4months, I am past the 7month & my WAH-MLCer is still involved w/OW, while he has been back at the house "sort of."

At present, after a confrontation Tues., I have gone dark on WAH-MLCer. Like you, I am afraid the distance will push him to OW, but know it has to be done for our sanity.

When do we draw the line in the sand & say enough? Honestly don't know. Many friends are concerned that I am being a doormat & it's hard to explain DBing to them, about letting OW make the mistakes & we keep the door open for reconciliation.

How do we continue while turning the blind eye, especially when our "radar" goes off & we know the H is lieing about where he is, or going & with, etc.?

You are NOT alone. I am WITH you.