So sorry you are here, but it is the right place to be. Your W's behavior does suggest that she IS not detached completely either. It's a positive, but the main thing is that you have to give her space. Back off big time and be grateful you have a child together. She Will have to see your changes b/c she will have to see you. Just do the DB thing knowing she will notice. She will.
We also know how you feel, and that you think it will be like this forever, or for decades, but it won't. You will heal and who knows? She may wake up. Just vent here and not at her. My DB coach (I strongly recommend calling them) said to "Keep the Road Home Paved and Smooth" so if you can do that, it'll help. Also, if you stop attacking her choices, maybe she won't feel she has to defend them. Maybe she'll finally really see them for what they are. Mistakes. Sending hugs your way and good luck and keep on keeping on. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
