I don't think we should change the subject just yet on this thread. The fact that his wife entered in a marriage with a lot of baggage could be the culprit of many of the maritals strains. Many times a woman can't handle the step kid's and the ex wife. They don' know what they were getting into. Some women can handle it. But see this was stress she never had to experience before metting HD.
The fact remains maybe she doesn't feel you are aggresive enough in defending her. You may think you have. But I have seen how passive you can be about approaching your wife and do anything confrontational. Maybe in your eyes you have done what you think is defending her. But if you did this agrresively enough I think this nonsense should have stopped with your ex and children. I know in my divorce degree it says we can't talk negatively about the other spuse in front of the children. This is something that can be brought up for contempt charges. If your children are there 4 days a week I can imagine she would feel exhausted and not very sexual most of the time. If she feels there is a constant war in her home. Instead of taking this to lightly HD maybe this is something that needs badly to be addressed. I mean come on there has to be a reason she would get that upset for you taking your daughter anywhere near your ex. This shows there is a lot of anger in this issue.
Also my husband has a tendency to not tell me things in fear I will get mad. This is maddening to me. I much prefer open and honesty. This puts much strain on our relationship. We have been together for 13 years and I am still trying to learn how to communicate with him. Much of his trouble in this area comes from his ex wife.
