You guys are funny... so worried about hurting someone's feelings! If the dishwasher isn't loaded to get in as much as possible, I reload it. I'll also tell the kids to do it over and show them how. Same as house cleaning or yard work.
I had a friend long ago who had two college age boys, with nothing to do but go to school and party. Yet he would do all the yard work every weekend, in the heat of Houston summers. He said it was too much hassle to get into an argument with his kids because he was so picky. But we're not talking rocket science here. Even those boys can figure out how to mow grass and sweep up the trimmings. The truth is they knew darn well that if they held to their position of doing a sloppy job, their dad would give in and they could skip the work altogether.
So in the short run it was easier to avoid the hassle of training, but in the long run, the dad would have saved himself a lot of work. It doesn't make sense to me. Taking the Buddhist approach of the easiest path doesn't seem like it is in anyone's best interest in this example.
