The only help I might offer is to specifically ask what needs done or if they are doing something correctly.
Fearless,
Why is it the man's responsibility to check and see if the way HE does things is the way SHE wanted them done?
That's just wrong. Work is work, and one of the "dirty little secrets" of a lot of contemporary American marriages is that men don't do more, because their wives just criticize and make them foolish for the way they did things, when we were only trying to help.
Sorry to pick that one thing out of an otherwise thoughtful post, but that one just irks me.
