Erf. This reminded me of my marriage. I'll never forget my xW telling me (more than once) that if I did 90% of a task she wanted me to do, I might as well not have done any of it, because unless she could totally cross something off her list, my help wasn't helpful.
That's not quite the issue I was addressing but it reminds me yet again how different everyone's issues are.
I was the opposite. I was thankful for any help regardless of whether it was done fully or exactly the way I wanted. Geez I was ecstatic (too low of standards maybe??) just to have xH fold the clothes and take them upstairs. And I just silently hoped day after day when I got home that night that xH would have figured out how to move his cereal bowl and coffee mug from the island to at least the sink if not the dishwasher. of course I kind of wonder what I would have done with all that free time (10-20 seconds?) that would have opened up for me? Guess it wasn't too important after all.
In this case I was trying to prompt those H's who hadn't thought to ask and were with women who might not mention it. I totally forgot about the women who are demanding and who may be projecting their issues at their H's and have no qualms in doing so.
Sorry.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
