VC, that's a perfect example of how OW get male spouses, they play to the "protector" part of the male, then she strokes him for all he does. Guys love it! When you aren't hearing it at home it's pretty damn enticing when someone else is saying it to you. I can remember once in my workplace, a younger woman frequently telling me how good I looked, "oh,you don't need to lose weight", "is that new, you look wonderful"...it was pretty darn exciting to hear an attractive younger woman say things my W hadn't said in years (OK, ever). I sometimes wondered whether I didn't love my W because I found myself wanting to spend time with this person. I saw it as harmless flirtation on her part, and it never occurred to me to act on it BUT it felt pretty darn good and I wasn't hearing these things at home. Damn, I should have beat W to the punch and jumped that young things bones. Hindsight
